“I could talk to you all night long”. As you will see with compliments, you always need to focus on the values of a woman- what women deem important and flattering. Any man who has ever dated knows that women place a high value on talking and communication. Hence, after talking to your date for a while, you need to drop a compliment that not only flatters but also excites her. So, once you are engaged in a comfortable discussion, this is the perfect compliment to make her smile.

“I like the way your mind works”. Many women have grown accustomed to men giving them the “You are really smart” compliment. However, this more specific compliment will set you apart. It says that you not only listen to her but that you are impressed with her mind and the way she thinks in general.

“You look fantastic”. Most women spend plenty of time deciding what they are going to wear and what accessories match their outfit. Therefore, rather than saying “Thats a nice dress”, you need something more powerful. For extra emphasis that will knock her socks off, you can make a comment that her earrings are a great color or that her shoes are the perfect choice. She won’t deem you any less masculine, but like that you have an eye for details.

One of the best effects  you can have on a woman is to get her laughing. Yes, having a sense of humor and the ability to make her laugh is among the most appealing qualities any man can have. If you are a guy that doesn’t naturally have a great sense of humor, you may be at a big disadvantage. However, this is a communication skill that you can develop.

The fact is that most men are focused on being polite when they date. They censor themselves excessively and end up being boring in conversation and women see them as lacking an edge. To make a woman laugh, be a little more spontaneous. Look at whatever situation you are in from a fresh perspective and you’ll rapidly turn out to be the funny and creative individual that turns her on. Interesting enough, as you do this you will relax more and feel more confident. Ultimately, humor as a turn on for women is much more than a skill. It is an attitude. When you can make a woman laugh hardily, she sees you as having an attitude of confidence and optimism. And for a woman, that is very sexy.

1)   Try  A Love Letter-Two out of five guys will text their loving message on Valentine’s Day and two in ten will send emails. That doesn’t even factor in Facebook and Twitter professions of love. As sweet as you think 140 characters can be, old school letters win every time.  Women want to feel special.  Giving a card designed for the masses or sending a text implies minimal effort.  More than 75% of women say that a heartfelt love letter trumps chocolate and flowers every time. You can get a blank card or take a photo of the two of you and write a message on the back. It doesn’t have to be long, and can even be a quote from a song you both like. In this electronic world we live in, handwriting still holds a certain intimacy.

2)   Avoid Teddy Bears and Balloons- Those things are great if you are in high school. Women’s polls consistently show that those gifts rank among the worst. I’m not suggesting you run to the nearest jeweler.  In fact, depending on where you are in the relationship, extravagant gifts can seem overwhelming. If you’ve just started dating, a big gift can imply more depth to the relationship than there is. Instead, find a simple gift that shows you’ve been listening to her. Maybe buy a DVD she’s wanted, a book by an author she’s mentioned, or even something that she really needs. Thoughtfulness is a huge turn on for women.

3)    Make Plans- More than 50% of men make no V-day plans in advance.  This can be a problem since most women expect guys to map out the evening.  To avoid conflict in a relationship or potential relationship, just make a plan. To women, making plans is a sign of commitment. Putting forethought into your time together suggests you might see a future together. It may sound like a leap, but if you want to see the woman again don’t take this lightly.

1)      Too much Self-Admiration- While women often tell me they want a man who is confident, they do not want a man who spends the evening glorifying himself.  In an effort to impress, too many men are guilty of boasting about their latest achievement or money making venture. She will be much more impressed if you are genuine, make her laugh, and talk about other interests you have outside of work.

2)      Trying to “Fix” rather than listening- Men need to learn that succeeding in a relationship is much easier than they realize. As men, we want to always provide solutions to problems. However, women are emotional beings and often just want to be heard. It takes practice, but if you learn to truly listen to your lady and provide emotional support and empathy for whatever it is she is talking about, you will be on your way to winning her heart.

3)      Talking about the Ex-Wife or Ex-Girlfriend- Women want to know that you are interested in them and emotionally ready for a new relationship. They don’t want to feel that they are competing with your ex or that you have unresolved emotions there. So, if you are still angry at an ex-wife, or a cheating ex-girlfriend, you can almost guarantee that by bringing it up in any way there will be no second date.

1) Look and Feel Your Best- Women can be just as visual as men on a first date. Besides looking at your face and posture, women always tell me that they notice a man’s shoes and his watch. Remember to dress how you want to be perceived. If you want a woman to perceive you as upscale, make sure you dress in an upscale manner. If your wardrobe needs updating, do it. Sometimes the clothes do make the man. A woman will think, “If he can’t take care of himself, how is he going to take care of me?” Next, go and get a great haircut. Finally, if you haven’t changed your cologne in years, consider getting a great smelling scent. Remember, our olfactory sense if our strongest and women love men who smell fresh and clean. Aqua de Gio and CK1 were among the favorites selected by women for 2011,

2) Stop Talking and Start Listening- You want to keep your date interested but don’t do more than 20% of the talking. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. The more you can entice a woman to talk about herself, the more comfortable she will become with you. You may simply have to say, “Tell me more…”. Listen to things she tells you about herself and remember them. She will be very impressed when you later remember things she told you. This is one way to ensure a second date.

3) Never Expect Sex on a First Date- If all you are after is sex, you have come to the wrong place. If you are looking for the woman of your dreams, there is nothing sexier than a patient man. You are easily capable of waiting for the right woman and she will want you more as she sees that you don’t push for that and genuinely want to get to know her.

4) Discuss Interests Outside of Your Career- Most women want to be with a man who is interesting and enjoys personal growth. It is fine to show her that you are passionate about what you do. However, balance it with the other things you enjoy doing when it’s time for relaxation and fun.

5) Always Pay by Credit Card- It’s clean, simple, and easy. No counting out dollars. Do not study the bill for accuracy. Don’t even look at it. Simply toss your credit card in, and lay it on the table. This small action says, “I’m having a good time, I’m generous, I don’t care how much the bill is because I can afford it and you are worth it”. This is non-verbal communication that women pick up on and will score you major points.

1)  Life Goals- You want the same things in life. You envision a future that is similar. You can support each other’s vocational goals.

2)  Values- Your values match. Values have to do with what you consider to be important and unimportant. Do you value work, financial independence, family, charity, a healthy lifestyle, having fun, honesty, and a relationship?

3)  Communication- You are able to communicate your thoughts to each other and both of you can listen without judging. You are also able to resolve conflict. This is very important.

4)  Beliefs- This involves your worldviews and will directly affect other areas of your lives. Religion and politics are two big ones. Having the same beliefs helps you to both be on the same team and it gives you things to talk about and pursue together.

5)  Lifestyle Preferences- These are personal likes and dislikes. Do you prefer to spend a lot of time alone or with other people? Do you like to go to bed early or stay up late? Do you like to travel or are you a homebody? These are just a few of the preferences that need to be addressed.

No two people are exactly alike.  Just the differences between being a man and being a woman are enough to deal with at times.  There will always be things in someone that we decide to overlook. However, these shouldn’t be big things that will cause the relationship to be highly conflictual or things that will make you want to change your partner.

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1)  A Man Wants a Woman who is Happy, Playful, and Fun.  Men like to be active and play. No secret here. Men bond by doing shared activities and experience connection with others through action.  Most women, however, experience connection through talking.  Unfortunately, you cannot talk your way into a man’s heart. It will never be your wonderful command of the English language that will make him attracted to you. It will be the experiences you create with him.  For example, don’t talk about your problems at work or issues with your family in the early stages of dating.  Down the road, there will be time for more serious discussions.  In the beginning,  when a man has fun and feels that spark for you he will want to spend more time getting to know you.

2)  A Man Wants Chemistry (Attraction and Passion)  Chemistry is the one “intangible” we cannot control in the matchmaking business. Men aren’t as scared of relationships as most women think.  However, they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there is no passion or attraction.  Yes, men are visual creatures and the chemistry either is there or it isn’t.

3)  A Man Wants a Woman who Inspires and Respects Him- When a man loves a woman, he wants to be a better man for her and it gives purpose to all his hard work.  Men still want to go out and slay the dragon to win a woman’s respect, love, and admiration at the end of the day. A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize a man will be attractive to him.  How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things a man looks for when he’s deciding if he should date her exclusively.  High drama with emotions out of control is a red flag for all men.  A woman who can present her feelings in a calm non-dramatic way will go a long way toward convincing a man that she could potentially be a long-term partner for him.