1)   Try  A Love Letter-Two out of five guys will text their loving message on Valentine’s Day and two in ten will send emails. That doesn’t even factor in Facebook and Twitter professions of love. As sweet as you think 140 characters can be, old school letters win every time.  Women want to feel special.  Giving a card designed for the masses or sending a text implies minimal effort.  More than 75% of women say that a heartfelt love letter trumps chocolate and flowers every time. You can get a blank card or take a photo of the two of you and write a message on the back. It doesn’t have to be long, and can even be a quote from a song you both like. In this electronic world we live in, handwriting still holds a certain intimacy.

2)   Avoid Teddy Bears and Balloons- Those things are great if you are in high school. Women’s polls consistently show that those gifts rank among the worst. I’m not suggesting you run to the nearest jeweler.  In fact, depending on where you are in the relationship, extravagant gifts can seem overwhelming. If you’ve just started dating, a big gift can imply more depth to the relationship than there is. Instead, find a simple gift that shows you’ve been listening to her. Maybe buy a DVD she’s wanted, a book by an author she’s mentioned, or even something that she really needs. Thoughtfulness is a huge turn on for women.

3)    Make Plans- More than 50% of men make no V-day plans in advance.  This can be a problem since most women expect guys to map out the evening.  To avoid conflict in a relationship or potential relationship, just make a plan. To women, making plans is a sign of commitment. Putting forethought into your time together suggests you might see a future together. It may sound like a leap, but if you want to see the woman again don’t take this lightly.

1)      Too much Self-Admiration- While women often tell me they want a man who is confident, they do not want a man who spends the evening glorifying himself.  In an effort to impress, too many men are guilty of boasting about their latest achievement or money making venture. She will be much more impressed if you are genuine, make her laugh, and talk about other interests you have outside of work.

2)      Trying to “Fix” rather than listening- Men need to learn that succeeding in a relationship is much easier than they realize. As men, we want to always provide solutions to problems. However, women are emotional beings and often just want to be heard. It takes practice, but if you learn to truly listen to your lady and provide emotional support and empathy for whatever it is she is talking about, you will be on your way to winning her heart.

3)      Talking about the Ex-Wife or Ex-Girlfriend- Women want to know that you are interested in them and emotionally ready for a new relationship. They don’t want to feel that they are competing with your ex or that you have unresolved emotions there. So, if you are still angry at an ex-wife, or a cheating ex-girlfriend, you can almost guarantee that by bringing it up in any way there will be no second date.

1) Look and Feel Your Best- Women can be just as visual as men on a first date. Besides looking at your face and posture, women always tell me that they notice a man’s shoes and his watch. Remember to dress how you want to be perceived. If you want a woman to perceive you as upscale, make sure you dress in an upscale manner. If your wardrobe needs updating, do it. Sometimes the clothes do make the man. A woman will think, “If he can’t take care of himself, how is he going to take care of me?” Next, go and get a great haircut. Finally, if you haven’t changed your cologne in years, consider getting a great smelling scent. Remember, our olfactory sense if our strongest and women love men who smell fresh and clean. Aqua de Gio and CK1 were among the favorites selected by women for 2011,

2) Stop Talking and Start Listening- You want to keep your date interested but don’t do more than 20% of the talking. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. The more you can entice a woman to talk about herself, the more comfortable she will become with you. You may simply have to say, “Tell me more…”. Listen to things she tells you about herself and remember them. She will be very impressed when you later remember things she told you. This is one way to ensure a second date.

3) Never Expect Sex on a First Date- If all you are after is sex, you have come to the wrong place. If you are looking for the woman of your dreams, there is nothing sexier than a patient man. You are easily capable of waiting for the right woman and she will want you more as she sees that you don’t push for that and genuinely want to get to know her.

4) Discuss Interests Outside of Your Career- Most women want to be with a man who is interesting and enjoys personal growth. It is fine to show her that you are passionate about what you do. However, balance it with the other things you enjoy doing when it’s time for relaxation and fun.

5) Always Pay by Credit Card- It’s clean, simple, and easy. No counting out dollars. Do not study the bill for accuracy. Don’t even look at it. Simply toss your credit card in, and lay it on the table. This small action says, “I’m having a good time, I’m generous, I don’t care how much the bill is because I can afford it and you are worth it”. This is non-verbal communication that women pick up on and will score you major points.

1)  Life Goals- You want the same things in life. You envision a future that is similar. You can support each other’s vocational goals.

2)  Values- Your values match. Values have to do with what you consider to be important and unimportant. Do you value work, financial independence, family, charity, a healthy lifestyle, having fun, honesty, and a relationship?

3)  Communication- You are able to communicate your thoughts to each other and both of you can listen without judging. You are also able to resolve conflict. This is very important.

4)  Beliefs- This involves your worldviews and will directly affect other areas of your lives. Religion and politics are two big ones. Having the same beliefs helps you to both be on the same team and it gives you things to talk about and pursue together.

5)  Lifestyle Preferences- These are personal likes and dislikes. Do you prefer to spend a lot of time alone or with other people? Do you like to go to bed early or stay up late? Do you like to travel or are you a homebody? These are just a few of the preferences that need to be addressed.

No two people are exactly alike.  Just the differences between being a man and being a woman are enough to deal with at times.  There will always be things in someone that we decide to overlook. However, these shouldn’t be big things that will cause the relationship to be highly conflictual or things that will make you want to change your partner.

We take an eminently professional approach to how we go about our business. Years of being at the pinnacle of our industry have given us the ability to provide top-notch professional dating services while still being able to offer the personalized one-on-one approach. Every single one of our policies is designed to support the principles of professionalism and customer service that underpin what you would expect from an elite dating service.  Take for instance the policy that considers clients’ income or net worth.  Model Quality Introductions never discloses this information in order to eliminate the possibility of clients being judged according to their financial status alone.

1)  A Man Wants a Woman who is Happy, Playful, and Fun.  Men like to be active and play. No secret here. Men bond by doing shared activities and experience connection with others through action.  Most women, however, experience connection through talking.  Unfortunately, you cannot talk your way into a man’s heart. It will never be your wonderful command of the English language that will make him attracted to you. It will be the experiences you create with him.  For example, don’t talk about your problems at work or issues with your family in the early stages of dating.  Down the road, there will be time for more serious discussions.  In the beginning,  when a man has fun and feels that spark for you he will want to spend more time getting to know you.

2)  A Man Wants Chemistry (Attraction and Passion)  Chemistry is the one “intangible” we cannot control in the matchmaking business. Men aren’t as scared of relationships as most women think.  However, they are scared of being in a relationship with a woman where there is no passion or attraction.  Yes, men are visual creatures and the chemistry either is there or it isn’t.

3)  A Man Wants a Woman who Inspires and Respects Him- When a man loves a woman, he wants to be a better man for her and it gives purpose to all his hard work.  Men still want to go out and slay the dragon to win a woman’s respect, love, and admiration at the end of the day. A woman who has the maturity to not blame or criticize a man will be attractive to him.  How a woman handles her emotions is one of the most important things a man looks for when he’s deciding if he should date her exclusively.  High drama with emotions out of control is a red flag for all men.  A woman who can present her feelings in a calm non-dramatic way will go a long way toward convincing a man that she could potentially be a long-term partner for him.

Men who are very selective in their choice of women to date or for building a long-term relationship are sometimes hesitant to employ a professional dating agency.  Attractive and well off men naturally want the best qualities in their partners, and unfortunately not all upscale matchmaking or dating agencies can promise these. This is where Model Quality Introductions stands above the rest.  MQI has the rare advantage of being male-owned, so the very system it employs in screening women is unique and patterned from the male perspective. This fully ensures that the pool from which that special woman will eventually emerge is composed of women who are beautiful both inside and out.

As men, we must accept this fact. We must learn how to embrace it and also master it. If you think women are attracted to you in the same manner that you are attracted to them, you are far from correct. When a man sees a beautiful, sexy woman, he feels an instant attraction toward her. Women, however, are slow to heat up and that attraction button is triggered by a host of other factors.

After 16 years in the matchmaking field, I have personally interviewed over 20,000 single women. This has taught me many valuable lessons.  For men out there not members of Model Quality and going at this process solo, here is my advice: Use your strongest talents to attract a woman. For example, an average looking man approaches a beautiful woman and engages her in conversation. Early on he pulls out his card and says “I would love to have lunch sometime.” She looks down and sees that he is a medical doctor. She will usually say yes since he seems polite and is a single doctor. In this case, he lets his business card do the talking.  As another example, a father is giving his son lots of vocal encouragement on the soccer field. He is outwardly proud, complimentary, and encouraging in front of all the other parents.  A single mom will start to notice this… and him too. He doesn’t have to be wealthy, or exceptionally handsome.  His strength is his excellent parenting. His love and concern toward his son makes him exponentially more appealing to her. Once she sees him in action as a great parent, he can more easily walk up to her after the game and say, “Which lucky child is yours?” .

 I encourage you to date smart, not hard.  Any man can get the woman of his dreams by approaching her correctly and playing up the strengths he has.  At our agency, our matchmakers do this for you. We talk about all of your accomplishments, attributes, and strengths in a non-boastful manner. That makes your dates always as excited to meet you as you are to meet them.  Remember, there are far more average and unattractive men dating and married to beautiful women than the other way around!  For a woman, how you make her feel and the person that you are will evoke that passionate feeling more than the way you look. If you know how to use your strengths, body language and communication correctly, you can make a woman feel the same powerful attraction toward you that you feel toward her.