Today I want to talk about “The List”. Most single men and women have one, and it can be pretty elaborate. The question is does your list identify whats really important to you in a life partner, or does your list describe someone who doesn’t exist in reality? Knowing what you want is certainly helpful in narrowing down the pool of people you want to meet. Making a list also helps you determine your “must haves” and “nice to haves”. Sometimes, however, the list can be more of an obstacle than a useful screening tool. Often, I hear requirements that are so unrealistic that I don’t know if I should laugh out loud or cry because that client is destined to be single. For example, women are often looking for men who are highly successful and ambitious, yet they don’t want them to spend the time it takes to have that super successful life. Women also fantasize about a strong man who will also love to talk about feelings and go shopping with them. And then there are men who want the supermodel type woman, of which we have plenty, but she must look flawless without makeup, have an Ivy League degree or two, and not be high maintenance. Now, I’m not saying all of these things are mutually exclusive but you must be realistic. Real people aren’t perfect. Obviously there must be chemistry. It is either there or it isn’t. You cannot manufacture it. Chemistry and attraction are critical. Once those are met, we need to look at other things. Do you share common life goals and have similar ideas about family? Do you share an active lifestyle or desire to travel? How is their communication style? Make sure that your list” encompasses important values and attributes that are more than skin deep. As a client of MQI, you will be introduced to the most beautiful single women in the nation. They are all hand-picked and looking to meet commitment minded men. Our matchmakers will review with you what is important on the inside as well as the outside of the women we introduce you to. We help you flesh out what has been working for you and where we can make suggestions that will help you start a great relationship sooner. So, whether you are working with us now or plan on in the near future, take a closer look at your list.