How much baggage do you carry with you into your relationships? Some of us are aware of the baggage we bare, while others are clueless of what baggage even is? Baggage can be defined as the pain and negative experiences you are carrying around from your past relationship(s), and children/grandchildren still under your roof.
People who are unable to forgive the past are doomed to get dumped again. Superimposing old experiences into new relationships is a method of self sabotage. One needs to be able to see each matchmaking relationship as independent from the next. Because you were cheated on, verbally or physically abused, left for another woman/man, stuck footing the bills for the kids, or other hurtful acts doesn’t mean the next person in your life will do the same.
When a new encounter triggers past emotions, you need to dig deep. Are these the same issues with each passing relationship? Have you been blaming every single relationship on your new relationship? Do you find yourself asking, where are all the normal people? Or why am I still single? Could it possibly be, gasp! You who is causing these problems? If you have unresolved hurt or anger, one step to unload your baggage is to acknowledge your role. This is the advice of your millionaire matchmaking consultant.
Take an inventory of past relationships, identify the patterns, accept your role, own your shortcomings, and remember each partner is different from the past.
It takes a lot of courage to accept responsibility in failed relationships, but it must be done in order to move on and have a healthy relationships. Once you identify the pattern, you will come to a resolution. And if you discover you had no responsibility in the failed relationship because your past partner was on another planet, that’s a way of letting go as well and preparing to trust again! Release the fear and pain. Forgive the past. Move forward.
Your high end matchmaker will take the time to get to know you and your needs, and she will not steer you in the wrong direction. Once you let go of the past, your millionaire matchmaker can help you move forward.
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